You are leading her through your best turn patterns, you seem to have a great connection, and she is smiling and laughing. That means she's having a great time right? But then how do we reconcile these comments... (taken from our discussion board)
"When a guy makes a mistake I try to smile to give him encouragement."
"I always smile, even when the guy isn't very fun to dance with. You never know what other guys are watching..."
"Sometimes when a guy doesn't lead me correctly I laugh it off - it's best to have a sense of humor about our mistakes, right?"
Now you might be saying:
"AAAAhhhhhh but wait! I thought that smiling and laughing meant that my combos made her happy and she liked them and me...you mean to tell me she's been FAKING IT??"
While we are sure all of our visitors are great dancers, it is understood that we all should be polite to all dancer levels (beginners - advanced) in the salsa scene. However, to provide you with a more clear perspective on your performance, here are some surefire ways to tell that a follow really enjoys dancing with you whether it's for your combos, or just because she enjoys floor time with you, and isn't just pretending to have fun:...
For all of the guys out there wondering what goes through the minds of salseras (or women in general), I sat down with some fellow lady dancers and discussed behaviors that guys should avoid at the club. In any dance culture, there is a certain unspoken etiquette. For those who are new to salsa dancing, these tips may come in handy so that you don't give the wrong vibe.
1. We don't endorse the use of force.
Ask the lady to dance with you, don't tell her she is going to dance with you. Grabbing her wrist and urging, "Come on. Just one song" does not fly. If she declines, the best reaction is to acknowledge her choice and walk away. No verbal persuasion, cajoling or physical dragging should be utilized - especially when her boyfriend is around. If she gives the bathroom excuse, do not wait for her outside the bathroom- that is just plain creepy.
2. Ask her twice, she'll turn to ice.
You can ask twice in one night, but not one right after the other. When a song has ended, it is best not to ask her to dance right away. Even if you both seemed to have fun, give it some time and leave her wanting more... that is much better than risking her wanting to push you away.
3. Yakkity Yak? We won't come back.
Leave the chatting to Cathy! Keep talking to a minimum- exchanging names and where you are from at the beginning of the song is fine, but what the ladies don't like is when guys sacrifice the dance itself, and end up doing basic step the whole song while chatting. This comes across as hitting on us....
Now, I know this is one of those weird subjects, but I thought I'd share my experience at the club. Now, I am assuming everyone wears colonge (eau de toilette) - and if you haven't - you should. We all dance, and we all sweat like crazy - especially in a very packed club. Not many girls would like to dance with a highly sweaty, highly smelly (not good smelly) type of guy - especially if you are a beginner. Sorry, its the truth... So you might as well make the experience for your follow as pleasant as possible. So you should try and smell good for as most of the night as you can. However, I do a little extra other than wearing the regular Polo (Ralph Lauren) and on special occasions, Black (Kenneth Cole) colonge which some may have not thought of. I also use body spray. My preferrence is AXE body spray just because it goes on dry, and I like the smell of it - but back to the point. The main reason why I like body spray is because it goes directly on the skin (as opposed to colonge) and its less alcoholic which means it lasts longer. (Alcohol evaporates faster). Therefore, the more I dance (and sweat) the more fragarance comes out - especially if I dance bachata (a very close-up dance). That way I can at least not smelling badly when 11th hour chimes at the club. Again, a little goes a long way....